i wrote a paper as a senior in high school about this and when tracking the unhealthy relationship symptoms i found this out too. fucking a.
THIS is a legitimate reason to think Twilight is problematic. Not “oooh, but it’s girly literature cause the vampires sparkle and all the teen girls are into Edward”. As funny as some of the sparkly vampires jokes are - and they really sometimes are - Twilight’s very unique take on vampires is the least of the series’ problems, yet this criticism gets heard a lot more than the criticism of people who have noticed that something isn’t quite right in the relationship between Edward and Bella.
Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
Check. All the time
Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
Check. No werewolf’s ever aloud ever.
Make all of the decisions?
Check. We’re going to get married and then do this then this
Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
Threaten to commit suicide?
Check. I’ll run to Italy and try suicide by vampire if anything happens to you.
Threaten to kill you?
Check. On their first date.
Tried to isolate you from family or friends.
Check. Jacob. Her father, mother ect.
Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).
Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you.
Does tossing her through a glass table count?
Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.
I’m leaving you in the forest lol byeeeee.
Scared you by driving recklessly.
Check. All the damn time
Forced you to leave your home.
She had to run away with him to flee from the other vampires in the first movie, and she had to drop everything and run to Italy in the second.
Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention.
Check. We’ll just fix you here. On a table. In our house.
Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships.
Check. Check. Checkkkk.